A friend of mine told me about her relationship problems with her bf..which currently both of them are apart due to the bf's work requirement.
Sometimes I feel like myself more like a " ♥ consultant". I've consulted many of people around me, that's include my friends and even my own relatives.
But I also understand, no matter what I said or how much I've tried to comfort them, I must always be neutral and sometimes should just lend my ears and try not to say anything that will confuse someone's feeling.
It is hard indeed, to maintain a relationship or even a marriage. I truly agreed. There are many things to learn and the learning journey will never end until the day we went for "Heaven's registration". And even during the process of practicing such task, you may still encountered obstacles.
I'm not saying I have a perfect marriage, but I tried to keep it as good as it can. I encountered failure also in my past relationships, I am definitely not proud of that, ok? but in the other hand, I've learned a lot from my past relationships, and that is something even money cannot buy.
Of course, I must also thanks God for what I've gone through in the past and because of that, I can be a better wife today. I also thanks God for providing me such a sweet and loving husband. He has almost got everything I want as a husband except, I have forgotten to pray for his "body line"...hehe..well, just kidding. Maybe I have also forgotten to pray for our children as I thought it is natural to have kids, as I believe God wants us to multiply. Well, maybe the time is still not right yet, I will have to wait patiently. :)
Ok ok..it seems like I have dragged too far away ya..
Am I suppose to talk about my relationship or what? hehe....
Many people take for granted that their partners should know what are they thinking about, they sometimes find to have conversation with their partners are sort of wasting time. Not many of them know that communication is very important in a relationship/marriage. As I am also faithfully believe that "Trust" is another thing that both bf & gf / husband and wife should have mutually in mind. I always emphasis "Trust" during my so called "consultation". But like I said, relationship/marriage is merely based on the efforts of both parties, and the heart of both parties if they really want things to work out. It is a bit difficult when only one party tried to put effort and not receiving any good response from their partners. Eventually, the one trying to put in so much efforts will give up and turn their back and leave. That's sad!
Nevertheless, I really hope to see all relationships especially the matured one, and all marriages, to have a good ending. It is very heart aching to see or hear someone you are knowing is having heart breaking, what more to say if you they are your relatives. I can imagining how miserable and lost they are when such thing happens to them, I really cannot take it when thinking of it!
Let us pray for a better tomorrow for everyone ya!
"O Jesus, lover of the young, the dearest Friend I have, in all confidence I open my heart to You to beg Your light and assistance in the important task of planning my future. Give me the light of Your grace, that I may decide wisely concerning the person who is to be my partner through life. Dearest Jesus, send me such a one whom in Your divine wisdom You judge best suited to be united with me in marriage. May her/his character reflect some of the traits of Your own Sacred Heart. May s/he be upright, loyal, pure, sincere and noble, so that with united efforts and with pure and unselfish love we both may strive to perfect ourselves in soul and body, as well as the children it may please You to entrust to our care. Bless our friendship before marriage, that sin may have no part in it. May our mutual love bind us so closely, that our future home may ever be most like Your own at Nazareth. Amen."
Sometimes I feel like myself more like a " ♥ consultant". I've consulted many of people around me, that's include my friends and even my own relatives.
But I also understand, no matter what I said or how much I've tried to comfort them, I must always be neutral and sometimes should just lend my ears and try not to say anything that will confuse someone's feeling.
It is hard indeed, to maintain a relationship or even a marriage. I truly agreed. There are many things to learn and the learning journey will never end until the day we went for "Heaven's registration". And even during the process of practicing such task, you may still encountered obstacles.
I'm not saying I have a perfect marriage, but I tried to keep it as good as it can. I encountered failure also in my past relationships, I am definitely not proud of that, ok? but in the other hand, I've learned a lot from my past relationships, and that is something even money cannot buy.
Of course, I must also thanks God for what I've gone through in the past and because of that, I can be a better wife today. I also thanks God for providing me such a sweet and loving husband. He has almost got everything I want as a husband except, I have forgotten to pray for his "body line"...hehe..well, just kidding. Maybe I have also forgotten to pray for our children as I thought it is natural to have kids, as I believe God wants us to multiply. Well, maybe the time is still not right yet, I will have to wait patiently. :)
Ok ok..it seems like I have dragged too far away ya..
Am I suppose to talk about my relationship or what? hehe....
Many people take for granted that their partners should know what are they thinking about, they sometimes find to have conversation with their partners are sort of wasting time. Not many of them know that communication is very important in a relationship/marriage. As I am also faithfully believe that "Trust" is another thing that both bf & gf / husband and wife should have mutually in mind. I always emphasis "Trust" during my so called "consultation". But like I said, relationship/marriage is merely based on the efforts of both parties, and the heart of both parties if they really want things to work out. It is a bit difficult when only one party tried to put effort and not receiving any good response from their partners. Eventually, the one trying to put in so much efforts will give up and turn their back and leave. That's sad!
Nevertheless, I really hope to see all relationships especially the matured one, and all marriages, to have a good ending. It is very heart aching to see or hear someone you are knowing is having heart breaking, what more to say if you they are your relatives. I can imagining how miserable and lost they are when such thing happens to them, I really cannot take it when thinking of it!
Let us pray for a better tomorrow for everyone ya!
"O Jesus, lover of the young, the dearest Friend I have, in all confidence I open my heart to You to beg Your light and assistance in the important task of planning my future. Give me the light of Your grace, that I may decide wisely concerning the person who is to be my partner through life. Dearest Jesus, send me such a one whom in Your divine wisdom You judge best suited to be united with me in marriage. May her/his character reflect some of the traits of Your own Sacred Heart. May s/he be upright, loyal, pure, sincere and noble, so that with united efforts and with pure and unselfish love we both may strive to perfect ourselves in soul and body, as well as the children it may please You to entrust to our care. Bless our friendship before marriage, that sin may have no part in it. May our mutual love bind us so closely, that our future home may ever be most like Your own at Nazareth. Amen."
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